Would Jesus Go to Church?

Recently we decided not to go to church anymore.  We don’t really know whether this is a permanent decision or just what we are doing right now.  It probably depends upon which one of us you talk to and what day it is.  One thing is for sure, we need some time to heal up from being in church consistently for about 25 years.  The pain is real — it doesn’t matter that there are problems in every church — it does matter that, since we left church, we’ve felt more shaming than actual concern for us.

Last week, we went to the Metro Cafe in Auburn for brunch.  We had a nice casual discussion.  We really didn’t think about church much at all.  I have personally experienced a gradual relaxation coming over me the longer we have been “skipping” church.  The only exception was when I was accused of bashing the church when I tried to discuss some of these things openly on Facebook.  One fella though I was trying to get attention.  If he only know how wrong that is.  What I long for is for the church to address itself to the 21st century and figure out how we can actually minister to the people that have been injured by life and injured by the church.

Back to the Cafe.

This little cafe was hopping.  The other options in town are pizza, Mexican, Chinese and barbecue – not very good breakfast options.  This place was well equipped and smelled like breakfast.  I ordered pancakes and breakfast potatoes and anticipated their arrival.  About that time, that I noticed the guy that looked a little like Santa Claus.  He introduced himself to a couple of people and then sat down with another couple.  It made me think of the books where John the Apostle or even Jesus himself makes an appearance in modern-day America and teaches some valuable lesson.

As I mentioned, I have been having discussions online about church this week and reading a book called “Pagan Christianity” which shows how many of our traditions are most likely adapted pagan rituals.  It proves a point but I’m not exactly sure what it is.  Because I posted this online, it kind of inflamed the church goers, especially the ones that live near me because they assumed it was about them.

Let me just be very clear – this is not a direct criticism of any specific church.  If church is working for you, keep doing it.  But, recognize that it’s not working for everyone, and  try to understand that I would simply like to have some discussions to see if we can somehow become better at doing “church.”  Even more than that, I want to somehow stop injuring people and help those that are already injured get better.

So, let’s just cut to the chase.

I don’t think he would go to church at all.  Even when I was a pastor, when people told the story of a guy walking in the door — you know the one, where people ignore him, then he reveals that He is Jesus.  I never bought that story because I just could never picture Jesus walking into a church, at least not like we have it designed.  I know he went to the temple because he was raised as a Jew, and that he was occasionally found in Synagogue.  But, I just could never picture him in a traditional church.

Jesus like to do his teaching outdoors.  We find him on a boat, on a hillside, in the streets, at a well with an enemy–almost never in the same place and seldom on a schedule.  On a a Sunday morning in Auburn, NE, I could more aptly picture him introducing himself to a table of people and sitting down to eat breakfast with them.

I’m really not the right person to ask right now.  I’m a little bit raw from allowing myself to get the point where I couldn’t hardly bear to walk in the door of a church–too much “stuff” without any relief has left me a little short of being bitter and needing to get my bearings.  But many of the people I come across these days are feeling the same way–it just doesn’t all make sense like it used to.

In her book, The Great Emergence, Phyllis Tickle uses the analogy of a “500 Year Rummage Sale” to describe how the church tends to “clean house” every 500 years.  The last time this happened was in 1517, roughly 500 years ago.  Maybe the advent and proliferation of the internet is going to lead us to some dramatic changes in how we do church.

I don’t know all the answers to how it should change, but I know without a doubt that it needs to be re-imagined or it is surely going to fail in the next 10 years.  I often ask people “If you could change the world what would you change?”  Well, if I could change the world, I would change the church.  I don’t have all the answers, but here are my ideas.

  1. Decentralize the church – with the internet, many things don’t require the organization of church and could be done outside the church building.
  2. Teach people to build community – there are many places and many ways to find community.  It doesn’t have to be supervised by clergy at a specific time and place, it can happen everywhere.
  3. Reduce the staff of all church – that is if we even have the church “organization” any more.  If we don’t need the building, we don’t need a lot of the staff.
  4. Increase greatly mental health and counseling resources — if people still want to give money to something, invest all that money in relief to the poor, mental health counseling, spiritual direction and justice causes.
  5. Funnel people to online discipleship resources – instead of coming to church to get one or two chosen discipleship resources for adults and children.  Don’t teach people how to do “church” — teach them to be contemplative and teach them to be human.
  6. Use our time more wisely — let families use the time and money (yes I said it) they used to give to church attendance, and spend it on family vacations and get-togethers with friends and meeting their neighbors.

For all the time we have spend in church, we really should be doing better than we are.  Maybe we spent too much time erecting the church building and coming TO church, when we should have spent time being the church.  I don’t really care whether the church building survives or whether pastors get to keep making money by being pastors.  What I care about is that people get better emotionally and learn to live out the Great Commandment to love one another.  I don’t care if church attendance goes up or down–I want us to be more kind and compassionate.  I don’t want to lose another friend because of where I attended or what I believed.  I don’t want to see another friend burn out as a pastor or another person get hurt emotionally because we care too much about the organization of the church and too little about the people in the body of Christ.

I believe we can get better.  I want to keep an image of the Santa Claus guy in the cafe’.  I will be trying to emulate that guy while my wounds heal.  As I build and nurture community, I can love my family and the people I see along the way.  I can watch sermons and podcasts and read my Bible and pray and meditate.  Yesterday, I did a podcast with a couple of my contemplative friends.  It was community, I felt loved, and I learned a couple of things.

For now, these kinds of things are good enough for me.

Be at peace,


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